Along with starting a new job and moving house, getting married is often citied as one of the most stressful things that you can do. Even if you’re not acting out as a huge Bridezilla the odds are something will crop up during the wedding planning process which will try even the most calm and relaxed of people.
For me (bar my one Bridezilla moment of stressing about my dress creasing up in the back of my Mini as I drove to the venue the day before – it didn’t…) my biggest stresses were table planning (last minute drop outs and breakups) and a HUGE tax bill the month before, wiping out most of the money I had earmarked for paying suppliers (luckily it was rectified!).
The biggest piece of advice to pass on when it comes to planning is to relax. Easier said than done but you need to remember no-one other than your partner really knows what’s meant to happen so if something doesn’t go quite as planned – no-one will be any the wiser. And in all the excitement of the day itself, you won’t notice or care.
I can vouch for this as on the day of my wedding I was pooped on by a bird during the photos (it’s meant to be good luck, right?) and the cake wasn’t the one we ordered. Seriously, it was not what we discussed with the cake maker at all; different design; different colour; different flavours – but it honestly did not matter one bit. *okay it mattered enough that we moaned about it afterwards and got our money back – but it really did not ruin the day! *
But just incase you have a stressed out moment; here are our Top 5 ways to chill out and destress.
1. SPA TREATMENT
Not the cheapest of methods but we think it’s totally justified considering you could pass it off as “wedding preparation”. If funds allow, treating yourself to a day at the spa with a couple of treatments is a sure fire way to feel relaxed and spaced out (in a good way). There’s something about the smell of a spa that immediately eases my mind and makes me totally forget about any worries. And don’t even get me started on the magic of a heated massage bed, cozying up under some warm towels…. If you want to save some money, recreate the spa at home. I love to bathe in Senspa Himalayan Bath Salts and do an at home facial with REN Glycolactic Skin Renewal Peel Mask which exfoliates away dead skin cells to leave you with a glow that will rival any professional facial.
Exercise that is free! All you need is a pair of trainers and off you go. It’s been proven that running boosts your endorphins, the “feel-good” hormone and mimics meditation. Running is a peaceful, repetitive activity, and according to Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche, author of “Running With the Mind of Meditation,” running provides stillness the mind needs in order to meditate. Another bonus of running is that, if like me, you stress eat (chocolate releases endorphins too!), you can feel smug that you’re burning it off and keeping healthy- no need to panic about forthcoming dress fittings!
3. DATE NIGHT
A number of couples say they find wedding planning stressful because their lives become “all about the wedding planning”. They go to work, do a stressful job, come home and all they have to talk about is the wedding. It’s far too easy to get caught up in the excitement of planning, but remember you were a couple before the planning and you’ll be a couple after – there were (and will be) other things to fill your time. Make time for each other – go to the cinema; go out for a nice meal; just don’t talk about the wedding. We love the latest craze for “Alphabet dating” where you work through the alphabet coming up with date ideas e.g. A = visit an art gallery; B= go on a bike ride; C =go for a coffee…. Z = Zombie laser quest (No? – just me…)
Seriously – hear me out on this one. I have come across a number of blog posts which were singing the praises for “The Enchanted Forest” by Johanna Basford. It’s essentially the most intricate, detailed colouring book (for adults!) with the most beautiful flora and fauna designs that you – well – colour in. Hidden on each page are symbols to help unlock a secret at the end. I stumbled across the book at a shop when visiting my parents and it was so pretty I just had to have it. My husband thinks it’s the lamest thing he has ever seen when I sit there of an evening, watercolour pencil in hand – however, it is sooooo relaxing. And creative without the need to draw yourself!
5. GIRLS NIGHT OUT
It might not be quiet and relaxed but if something is seriously stressing you out, nothing beats blowing off a bit of steam, sipping cocktails and bitching and moaning with your best friends. We’ve recently discovered the beauty of Cotton Candy Cocktails – Just remember to drink responsibly kids 😉
What are your top tips to unwind? Anything majorly stressed you out during wedding planning?